22 January, 2016

A Letter To My Boys

Archie turns 2 next month so it seemed like the perfect timing to write this letter to my boys as I tend to reminisce just before their birthdays.
This letter is my hopes and dreams for them as well as a little advice, but not to smother them as it's their choice on how they live their lives, I as a mother can only guide them.

To My Precious Boys,

Being a Mum is a difficult job, but being your Mum is the best job in the world. From the day I gave birth I never felt a bond and love so strong, a love that grows each and everyday.

I remember the first time I found out I was pregnant, I can't tell you how terrified I was, not because I didn't love you, but because I was worried you wouldn't love me as much as I loved you. Well safe to say I needn't of been so worried, I think I've done a pretty good job of raising you and your brother over the last 5 years, and I know you both love me as much as I love you.

Being a parent is so difficult and one day you will understand why us Mum's and Dad's do what we do. So when your upset because you cant watch anymore tv, remember I'm doing it so you don't get bad eyes. When you cry because you don't want to go to bed, remember I'm doing it so you have a good night sleep and wake up feeling refreshed. And when I constantly give you vegetables that you apparently don't like yet, it's because I want to make sure you're getting the best out of your food and that your  healthy. Just a little thing, those smoothies you like were jam packed with fruit and vegetables!

My dreams and hopes for you and your brother....

Like every parent I want you and your brother to follow your dreams, no matter how big or small they maybe. Just know that I will support you in every decision you make however, I may have to step in with advice if you choose to do something silly and dangerous or want to be a footballer!
I hope that you both always be true and genuine to yourselves and the way you have been raised. Never forget who you are and always be respectful to others, no matter what their race, religion or sexual orientation is.

I hope you find a love like no other, of course when you both have your first relationship you may probably tell me they are the one. Don't be too hasty in running down the isle! Make sure you get to know that special person inside and out, make sure you are compatible as not everyone ends up with their first love and that's ok! Just remember to be a gentleman and be respectful, if things aren't  working out see if they can be saved. I learnt that talking is the key to any relationship, if you don't talk how can you sort any problems out? So remember to always give you and your partner that time to talk.

Let me tell you now the day you become Father's will be the best days of your lives, and I cant wait to be a Grandmother! However there is no rush and if you do decide to go down that route please just promise me you will be in a situation where you can be there for your children and be financially stable. I've learnt that you boys have been pretty expensive over the years and they don't teach you how to budget for babies in school! Be a hands on dad, teach your children how to ride a bike and not how to play on an iPad! Teach them right from wrong and always make sure you give them that special one on one time.  Being a father is just as important as being a mother so remember that! And share the workload!

The world is a beautiful place, but it is also filled with war, destruction and violence. Unfortunately it can't be stopped but what you can do is make sure you choose the right path. Never settle things with violence your just add to the problem.  Look for the beauty in life and cherish it. Be thoughtful and kind to others, treat them with the respect they deserve and the respect you would like to be shown, we are all equals.

Always be yourself never change to fit in, if we were all the same the world would be a very dull and boring place, embrace your uniqueness and be proud of yourselves.

And lastly I'm giving you the advice my father gave to me, Don't Drink, Don't do Drugs, and Don't get into trouble with the Police. I didn't turn out so bad did I, so it must of been some good advice!

I love you always and forever, to my little boys, Im so proud of you, dream big, have courage and be kind. 

Love Your Mum 


What advice would you give to your children?



  1. Such a beautiful letter. I keep meaning to write to my kids like this - it will always be lovely for them to look back on.

  2. Aww Andrea this is so beautiful and such a lovely memory for them both you should be super proud of the love and advice you've given them. If only all children had such advice to follow maybe the world would be just that little bit better x


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